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Getting Back to You After a Breakup

a man walking in natureAfter we go through a breakup we can often be left feeling despondent and down, even depressed for a while. Although these times are pretty awful when we are going through them, they can actually serve to evolve us both mentally and spiritually and help us to grow as human beings.

While the natural tendency is to hide away from the world, it is important not to stay there and get out and back to being yourself as soon as possible. Get out and see your friends and start to do things that can help you get some closure. If you’re really struggling then you may need to see a counsellor for a while. Getting some professional advice can really help to bring you through it a lot quicker.

Goodtherapy.org has a list of therapists and counsellors in various cities across the US. You can find them here.

Reflect on the relationship

During this time, use it to reflect on the relationship and the events that seemed to lead to its demise. Seeing the relationship for what it was from both angles can often help to get some perspective on it. See both the good and the not so good, and learn from it where you can.

Learn from any mistakes

Were there any mistakes made on your part? If so, take a note of them so you can learn from it and move on. Once you’ve acknowledged any mistakes allow yourself to release them and forgive yourself and your ex. You don’t necessarily need to meet your ex to do this if you don’t want to. You can silently or out load, affirm your forgiveness towards yourself and them and let it go to the universe to handle from here.

If you want to know more about self-forgiveness then see this article here.

Meditate

Studies have found that meditation can be highly beneficial for many reasons. Not only does meditation have a healing and rejuvenating effect on the body, it also helps to calm the mind, de-stress and connect in with your inner self.

If you’re not sure how to meditate then here’s an easy to follow guide for meditating to get over a breakup.

Walk in nature

Walking in nature can be very therapeutic. Get yourself out of the house for a few hours and go for a walk in your local park or forest. Really bring your awareness into the present moment and take time to look around yourself to appreciate all the beauty in nature that is all around us. Connecting with nature in this way can do wonders to help lift a person’s spirits, calm the mind and bring a sense of gratitude back into our lives.

Going through a breakup is never easy. If you’re really struggling then do reach out to friends and family members and let them know how you’re feeling and that you may need a little help from them for a while. Contact a local therapist or councillor as some professional advice can often work wonders to help you turn the corner towards a more positive frame of mind, which will help you to move on. You may also like to read our article on the top things to do to get over a breakup here.

Top Things to Do In Order to Get Over a Breakup

We know that many of you listening to our show are either going through a painful breakup period or are still trying to find yourselves in the aftermath.

For most people, going through a breakup from a long-term relationship can be on of the hardest and most painful experiences of their lives. Oftentimes, there is a sense of loneliness, anxiety and despair, which is probably harder to deal with the older you get. So, since we’re a love & relationship’s radio show, we thought for this episode we’d lighten the mood and talk about the top things to do after a breakup up to help you get back to being you and to be able to finally move on from all the trauma and heartache.

Our Top Six Breakup Cures

Hang out with your friends

This has gotta be one of the best breakup cures out there. Good friends are always there for you and will pick you up when you’re down and lost. It can be so easy to just sit at home by yourself moping during and after a breakup, but this is actually one of the worst things you can do. Meeting up with good friends will often help to cheer you up and take your mind off things.

Catch up with family

When we’re in a relationship life can often go by so fast that we forget or just don’t have the time to stay in touch with some family members as much as we’d like. However, for most people, your family are always gonna be there for you. Taking the time to catch up with them and see how they’re doing will often do wonders for your self-esteem.

Do voluntary work

Doing voluntary work is a great way to take your mind off your own problems and feel valued again by helping others. Volunteering for a charity can help to boost your self-esteem and often it can make us realize that our problems are not as big as some other people out there.

Here are some great options for volunteering.

Go shopping

A bit of retail therapy often puts the world to rights if you can afford it. If finds are a little tight then perhaps go out to get a few small things that will make you feel good.

Have a pamper day

Pamper days have always been my go-to methods for breakup recovery. One of the best things I find to do is to go visit the local spa for the day or even a weekend with a few of your girlfriends. Having a relaxing massage can help to soothe your worries and getting your hair and nails done can also help to refresh your self-confidence.

Here are 2018’s top ten Spa places to visit, according to townandcountrymag.com

Do something adventurous

Often, during a long-term relationship, we fall into a routine of always doing the same old thing. However, after a breakup, it is important to break out of the norm and do something you Wouldnt normally do. Bungee jumping, white water rafting or even skydiving can be great activities to show you that life is really worth living, with or without your ex.

Hopefully, this list will give you some good ideas to help you move past this phase and get your life back on track with a positive and fresh new perspective. Who knows, you may even meet the next Mr or Mrs Right at the same time!

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